Abhilash Veeru Ruhela or Abhi for me is a name which needs no introduction. He is one of my first friend from the literary world (thanks to Facebook!!) And truly a gem of a person. He follows an extremely tough schedule where he attends college and after getting screwed for 8 hours, reads the whole newspaper and several articles on Internet, 2 pages of Bhagawad Geeta, at least 30 pages of a novel, completes his assignments/journal, notes down 2 new words every day in his list of vocabulary and goes through the ones recorded earlier, posts a Blog Post, updates his personal diary and then also he is just a message away. People know him as a Star Blogger (he has recently written his 700th post on his blog- Abhilash Ruhela’s Blog), Unbiased Book Reviewer, Contributor at Isahitya, Professional Book Editor, Film Critic and above all a die-hard fan of Mr. Amitabh Bacchan (coincidentally he is celebrating his 70th birthday today). He created his Blog in 2009, and since then never looked back. He has touched almost all topics in this beautiful passage of 3 years. The best thing about his writing is that he never judges a person or a situation in his post but present the facts as it is. I am immensely grateful to him for writing a Guest Post for a new Blogger like me, and now let’s hear his thoughts on Friendship.
FOREWORD BY ABHILASH VEERU RUHELA :
I have never ever written a Guest Post for any blogger/Website owner. I have been asked many a times in last 1168 days of my Blogging career but I have been able in giving some or the another excuse. But I agreed once Mr. Pulkit asked me. He has been one of very few who keeps on doing the work without disturbing others. I have never found him talking about his blog/website through Facebook statuses. This is the major reason why I am associated with this person. This is my first Guest Post through which I’m trying to tell all my youth friends about why Friendship is a blockage in progress. Though you’ll abuse me now but I hope it’ll help you understand the hidden secrets after finishing the post. 🙂
TIME IS NOT MEANT TO BE SPENT ON FRIENDSHIPS!!!
Living life has always been tough for some, interesting for some and passion for some great ones. Life is actually as much challenging as we make it. If we’ll go on running away from the obstacles that come in our way, we are tending to be facing more challenges and problems in the future. While if we will keep on repairing and removing those obstacles with all our hard efforts, we are assured of creating a great, serene and peaceful future for us. The first thing that’s prominent in making our life successful is managing the Time that we are wasting. Take few pages of your notebook and start noting down your schedule of coming 2 weeks. After 2 weeks, analyze how much hours did you spent in what activities. As this post is targeted for youths, I can assure that almost 50% of your time (the time when you are awake, not asleep :-)) gets wasted with your Friends. Do concentrate, I have used the word “wasted” instead of “spent” . Do you have problem with my blunt criticism on Friendship that you share with your friends? If yes, then now start analyzing the productive work that you did in those times that you wasted with them. You’ll find yourself sitting with them in a mall, in a garden, hanging out at near-by areas, walking together till auto-stand or bus-stand or railway station to drop one of your friends etc. But you won’t find a single minute after the college time that you spent with them for studying, learning or producing something that’ll help you in the growth of your life. Am I Right? Your silence is my answer. 🙂
Now, as you have analyzed, observed and realized how you have been wasting your time, to be more precise, life, the first thing that you need to figure out now is the meaning of the term “Friendship”. Today, gossiping, chit-chatting and clicking photos with friends seems to be bliss but a time would come when you’ll think about what productivity did those activities with friends generated in your life. We keep on hearing examples of several legends. The most that most of us do is- Share the pictures, statuses and posts sharing those examples so that our friends get to read them and we move forward with the life that we kept on living. Why don’t we follow the footsteps that these great people followed? Is it hard to be a Legend? Yes, if you are wasting your time in stupid relationships. No, if you are mature enough to understand the power of opportunity each minute of your life carries.
I read it somewhere that Lalit Modi had several meetings in a day because of which he had to travel for 26 hours all around the globe. He hired a private plane. The attendant who served him for 26 hours said that she kept on insisting him to rest for a while but he was too adamant to get convinced about it. She said that he kept on calculating something and going through various files without sleeping for a second in those 26 hours of traveling. Imagine the effect these 26 Hours would have brought to his life. Though he is not in power today but he has gained enough to be forgotten in future.
I am a great fan of Amitabh Bachchan. I follow his blogs more than mine. He regularly publishes his blog between 2 AM to 4 AM. And every day he wakes up at 6 or 7 AM to struggle throughout the day. I need not specify different tasks that he goes through because everyone is aware of the kind of hard work Amitabh Bachchan does. Why do we notice his sleeping hours of just 3-4 hours and don’t implement in our life? He is 70 years old, achieved what no Indian has but still works with passion like a struggler. He understands the value of time. When Rajesh Khanna expired few weeks ago, Amitabh Bachchan claimed that he met him 3-4 years back for the last time. Why? Because he values time. He can’t waste his time in stupid relationships like Friendship.
Friendship should be of the kind that you call the person once in a year and he/she still accepts every sentence of yours without taunting about you being busy in your work so much that you didn’t call them up. But do we find such Friends in today’s world who would give us the same importance that they would have given us if we would have been in contact almost daily? The answer is blunt NO. So if Friendship can’t be as flexible as we want it to be, it’s better to keep such over-rated relationship aside and carry on the work that will incorporate our life to be of the level that we can’t even imagine. We keep on reading in books, newspapers, magazines and other sources that Time Management is one of the biggest keys to success. But we keep on managing the time that we are left with after all the social interactions. With this post, I have tried to tell you how time can be managed. How 24 hours can be converted and transmogrified into 36 hours. 😉 Keep the so-call Friends and Friendship aside and welcome a new inspiring, motivating and successful life. 🙂
ABHILASH VEERU RUHELA
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