ABHI’S THOUGHTS (GUEST POST)

 Abhilash Veeru Ruhela or Abhi for me is a name which needs no introduction. He is one of my first friend from the literary world (thanks to Facebook!!) And truly a gem of a person. He follows an extremely tough schedule where he attends college and after getting screwed for 8 hours, reads the whole newspaper and several articles on Internet, 2 pages of Bhagawad Geeta, at least 30 pages of a novel, completes his assignments/journal, notes down 2 new words every day in his list of vocabulary and goes through the ones recorded earlier, posts a Blog Post, updates his personal diary and then also he is just a message away.  People know him as a Star Blogger (he has recently written his 700th post on his blog- Abhilash Ruhela’s Blog), Unbiased Book Reviewer, Contributor at Isahitya, Professional Book Editor, Film Critic and above all a die-hard fan of Mr. Amitabh Bacchan (coincidentally he is celebrating his 70th birthday today). He created his Blog in 2009, and since then never looked back. He has touched almost all topics in this beautiful passage of 3 years. The best thing about his writing is that he never judges a person or a situation in his post but present the facts as it is. I am immensely grateful to him for writing a Guest Post for a new Blogger like me, and now let’s hear his thoughts on Friendship.

FOREWORD BY ABHILASH VEERU RUHELA :

I have never ever written a Guest Post for any blogger/Website owner. I have been asked many a times in last 1168 days of my Blogging career but I have been able in giving some or the another excuse. But I agreed once Mr. Pulkit asked me. He has been one of very few who keeps on doing the work without disturbing others. I have never found him talking about his blog/website through Facebook statuses. This is the major reason why I am associated with this person. This is my first Guest Post through which I’m trying to tell all my youth friends about why Friendship is a blockage in progress. Though you’ll abuse me now but I hope it’ll help you understand the hidden secrets after finishing the post. 🙂

TIME IS NOT MEANT TO BE SPENT ON FRIENDSHIPS!!!

   Living life has always been tough for some, interesting for some and passion for some great ones. Life is actually as much challenging as we make it. If we’ll go on running away from the obstacles that come in our way, we are tending to be facing more challenges and problems in the future. While if we will keep on repairing and removing those obstacles with all our hard efforts, we are assured of creating a great, serene and peaceful future for us. The first thing that’s prominent in making our life successful is managing the Time that we are wasting. Take few pages of your notebook and start noting down your schedule of coming 2 weeks. After 2 weeks, analyze how much hours did you spent in what activities. As this post is targeted for youths, I can assure that almost 50% of your time (the time when you are awake, not asleep :-)) gets wasted with your Friends. Do concentrate, I have used the word “wasted” instead of “spent” .  Do you have problem with my blunt criticism on Friendship that you share with your friends? If yes, then now start analyzing the productive work that you did in those times that you wasted with them. You’ll find yourself sitting with them in a mall, in a garden, hanging out at near-by areas, walking together till auto-stand or bus-stand or railway station to drop one of your friends etc. But you won’t find a single minute after the college time that you spent with them for studying, learning or producing something that’ll help you in the growth of your life. Am I Right? Your silence is my answer. 🙂

          Now, as you have analyzed, observed and realized how you have been wasting your time, to be more precise, life, the first thing that you need to figure out now is the meaning of the term “Friendship”. Today, gossiping, chit-chatting and clicking photos with friends seems to be bliss but a time would come when you’ll think about what productivity did those activities with friends generated in your life. We keep on hearing examples of several legends. The most that most of us do is- Share the pictures, statuses and posts sharing those examples so that our friends get to read them and we move forward with the life that we kept on living. Why don’t we follow the footsteps that these great people followed? Is it hard to be a Legend? Yes, if you are wasting your time in stupid relationships. No, if you are mature enough to understand the power of opportunity each minute of your life carries.

          I read it somewhere that Lalit Modi had several meetings in a day because of which he had to travel for 26 hours all around the globe. He hired a private plane. The attendant who served him for 26 hours said that she kept on insisting him to rest for a while but he was too adamant to get convinced about it. She said that he kept on calculating something and going through various files without sleeping for a second in those 26 hours of traveling. Imagine the effect these 26 Hours would have brought to his life. Though he is not in power today but he has gained enough to be forgotten in future.

          I am a great fan of Amitabh Bachchan. I follow his blogs more than mine. He regularly publishes his blog between 2 AM to 4 AM. And every day he wakes up at 6 or 7 AM to struggle throughout the day. I need not specify different tasks that he goes through because everyone is aware of the kind of hard work Amitabh Bachchan does. Why do we notice his sleeping hours of just 3-4 hours and don’t implement in our life? He is 70 years old, achieved what no Indian has but still works with passion like a struggler. He understands the value of time. When Rajesh Khanna expired few weeks ago, Amitabh Bachchan claimed that he met him 3-4 years back for the last time. Why? Because he values time. He can’t waste his time in stupid relationships like Friendship.

         Friendship should be of the kind that you call the person once in a year and he/she still accepts every sentence of yours without taunting about you being busy in your work so much that you didn’t call them up. But do we find such Friends in today’s world who would give us the same importance that they would have given us if we would have been in contact almost daily? The answer is blunt NO. So if Friendship can’t be as flexible as we want it to be, it’s better to keep such over-rated relationship aside and carry on the work that will incorporate our life to be of the level that we can’t even imagine. We keep on reading in books, newspapers, magazines and other sources that Time Management is one of the biggest keys to success. But we keep on managing the time that we are left with after all the social interactions. With this post, I have tried to tell you how time can be managed. How 24 hours can be converted and transmogrified into 36 hours. 😉 Keep the so-call Friends and Friendship aside and welcome a new inspiring, motivating and successful life. 🙂

ABHILASH VEERU RUHELA

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http://www.bloggerabhilash.info/2012/06/jo-bheji-thi-duaa-woh-jaa-ke-aa-gayi.html

http://www.bloggerabhilash.info/2011/06/when-they-raped-my-daughter.html

http://www.bloggerabhilash.info/2012/07/guwahatis-molestation-case-made-me.html

http://www.bloggerabhilash.info/p/celebrities-review.html

Is Youth all about Bike, Beer and Drugs !!

Image  “..I won’t give you a sip even if you give me a thousand bucks!” – JESSICA LAL to MANU SHARMA, before she was shot at

This world demands the qualities of youth: not a time of life but a state of mind, a temper of the will, a quality of imagination, a predominance of courage over timidity, of the appetite for adventure over the life of ease.” – Robert Kennedy

Why do teens choose to take drugs/ Drinks?

Youth take drugs for the following reasons: social disorganization, peer pressure, family factors, emotional, or rational choice. Besides being a C.A. student , I am also an Engineering drop-out (by choice) and I have seen the youth there crazy for Bikes, Drinks and SMOKING. Some may argue that teen drug abuse is highly correlated with the behavior of close friends especially when family supervision is weak. This relationship, in fact, is reciprocal: substance abusers seek out friends who engage in similar activities.This thing exists not only there but in every college like of M.B.A.,MBBS or even C.A. Hostels….. The main reason for that is “Macho or Tashan”. They think that if they are smoking or performing stunts then this will seperate them from boys.

The evidence of drinking within youth culture suggests that the experience of liquid is often pleasurable rather than negative and damaging. So probably the main reason why young drinks is that they enjoy them.

Ladkiyon pe tashan marna hai  varna vo bhao nahi dengi…..BULLSH*T !!

Sorry for the language, but they have deviated from the primary purpose and qualities of youth. Youth is the future face of World. According to me Youth means never dying soul , youth means new ideas (e.g. Amit Trivedi or Chetan Bhagat or Anurag Basu ) , youth means person who works without being tired.

“…Youth voice is crucial to the overall effectiveness of our country. Youth voice has a tremendous impact on our system.The young, free to act on their initiative, can lead their elders in the direction of the unknown… The children, the young, must ask the questions that we would never think to ask….”
But this is what our younger generation is doing

DRINKING   29TH APRIL 1999 – A girl, a daughter and a sister named Jessica was shot dead just becoz she refused to give drink to a person who was already tight. Just tell me one thing that “Is the life of a person is small even in comparison to a drink”?? . This episode destroyed her family as her mother expired due to the lower court verdict against them and her sister Sabrina spent her 8 years to fight for justice for her sister…. I beg each and every person here not to drink Alcohol. I know nobody is perfect, and I  also had tried it during my college days but then I quit it after seing it’s tragic results.  “We first start it in fashion and finally it becomes our passion.”  Unfortunately, the person doing the drinking is not the only one who feels the impact of this abuse. It has a profound and immediate impact on their families as well as their friends and acquaintances. Difficulty walking, blurred vision, slurred speech, slowed reaction times, impaired memory: Clearly, alcohol affects the brain.  “Nobody is a saint, and I know that but drinking  brings devil out of them.” You  don’t know what you are doing after drinking as ur mind is not in ur control. Yaar Nightclubs mein dance karte hue pack lagana doesn’t suggest that you belong to High-class. Aadmi ko uncha banna hai to apne thoughts se bano na ki in cheezo se…

 

Bike & Cars i.e. Need For Speed  —  Roadies, Stunt Mania, Fast and Furious, Tron, Torque and Dhoom has increased the fascination of high cc (i.e. High speed)  bikes and cars among youths. There is nothing wrong in it till it is done within a limit. But today’s youth not only over speeds but also try stunts which can be dangerous to them and to others too. Just remember the BMW Hit and Run case in which 6 people were died. Par humein kya …Pitaji pe bahut paisa hai isliye ek gaadi li , uspe ek high watt music system, saath mein gf aur uske upar beer aur pee li — A toxic combination. Yaar khud marna hai maro par dusre ko kyon marte ho!!

Last year a couple lost their single child as a result of car race between 2 cars.  A teenager lost his life as he was trying some stunts from a Hollywood flick… Pls yaar for a moment think about your family and the victim’s family too. Be a responsible citizen and a responsible son.

Drugs and Smoking-  College students + Farm House + Rave Parties + Smoking + Drugs = Today’s Youth

 2nd Aug 2010 – It was meant to be the ‘Friendship Day’ and 350 students from Pune’s various colleges had gathered at a farmhouse to commemorate the day on Sunday. The celebration was over beer and wine, which flowed with passing hours. Although it was not a rave party, as no drugs were consumed but then also what message they are giving to our community and youngsters. Many rave parties have also been raided in the past by police where young people were caught consuming drugs but again same question “Why”? In the beginning, you start these things for fun, but in long-term they can prove to be fatal. Some young people will use drugs specifically to ease the trauma and pain of unsatisfactory relationships and the physical and emotional abuse arising from unhappy home lives. Such young people will often come to the attention of the school. If these problems can be addressed, then if drugs are involved they can become less of a problem.I dedicate this post to Jessica and her sister Sabrina…

CRICKET – THINGS YOU CAN LEARN FROM THIS GAME

I am crazy about cricket just like any other cricket follower. In India Cricket is more than a sport and Sachin, another name of God.

Is Cricket just a mode of entertainment ???

My Answer is No. It is more than just a game, and one can learn a lot from its Historical Events.

So you don’t agree with me !! . Hmmmm…..Again I have to apply my writing skills to convince you . But before I start my article I want to make 2 things clear :-

(1) This is totally my Idea (Jo mere Shaitani Dimaag ki Upaj Hai) and

(2) I equally respect each and every game and one can learnt from any sports…. Ok then Get Set and GO

CRICKET – THINGS YOU CAN LEARN FROM THIS GAME

(1) COMMITMENT 

Anil Kumble with a broken jaw and gets Brian Lara lbw -India vs WI 4th test Antigua 2002

This shows your Commitment towards your Profession. Choose the Career of your choice and then give your 100% to it and you will get unbelievable results.

The sight of Anil Kumble emerging from the pavilion, ready to bowl, his face bandaged, in the Antigua Test of 2002, is one of cricket’s most inspiring.

He bowled 14 consecutive overs and finally  dismissed  Brian Lara while bowling with a broken jaw. He was due to fly back to Bangalore the following day for surgery, and as he said, “At least I can now go home with the thought that I tried my best.

“It was one of the bravest things I’ve seen on the field of play,” said Sir Vivian  Richards later.

Batting at No. 7 (Ajay Ratra at No. 8 made a century; Kumble was hit by Mervyn  Dillon. He spat out blood but batted on for another 20 minutes.

(2)  CONCENTRATION, TEMPERAMENT AND MOTIVATION

SACHIN SCORING A CENTURY AFTER HIS FATHER’S DEATH, 29th May 1999 India vs Kenya, Bristol: 

Sachin Tendulkar’s 140 not out in the match against Kenya said a lot about the temperament that the little champion possesses. India was under pressure to win the match to stay in contention as they had lost their previous two games to South Africa and Zimbabwe. Sachin had not taken part in the match against Zimbabwe as he had to return to India because of the rather unfortunate death of his father. However, he made it a point to return to England for the World Cup. His hundred against Kenya is still talked about as one of the great knocks of all time simply because of all the pressures (most of them non-cricketing) he was facing.

This shows that the biggest Motivator in this world is you. If you want to do something then do it for yourself.  

(3) LEADERSHIP – LEADING BY EXAMPLE

GREAME SMITH BATTING WITH BROKEN HAND – AUS V/s SA, 3rd test 5th Day,  Sydney, 7th Jan.2009 

S.A. was struggling to save test match against Aussies, and with 9 wickets down and there was no way that the South African captain Graeme Smith could come to bat in the last wicket, “Smith walked out at No. 11, looking to survive 8.2 overs with a broken hand, his own blood recently injected into his right elbow, and a desperate Australian attack”

It was a special moment in World Cricket to watch Smith come out from that dressing room to bat in No. 11 with his broken hand and all the Australian crowd giving Graeme a standing ovation was really inspiring.

There is a saying that a Leader s’d lead from the front by setting an example for others and that’s what we learn from this instance.

(4) NEVER SAY DIE ATTITUDE

MOHD. KAIF AND YUVRAJ PARTNERSHIP AT LORDS, NATWEST SERIES FINAL, IND V/s ENG, 14TH JULY 2002

Chasing as mammoth a target of 325, India was struggling at 5-146 with all big guns back to the pavilion.  Two Youngsters Kaif and Yuvraj were on the crease, but no one was expecting miracles from them.

However, Yuvraj and Kaif had different designs altogether. They played brilliantly, forged a fantastic partnership at the crucial stage and saw India romp home. Y.Singh scored 69 and M.Kaif 87 notout to bring one of the finest wins in the history of one-day cricket.

This shows that when no one believes you than it’s good that you have no pressure to preform and then you will give your best shot. 

(5) NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE AS IMPOSSIBLE ITSELF SAYS I AM POSSIBLE

VVS LAXMAN 73* V/s AUSSIES WHILE BATTING WITH A RUNNER TO GUIDE INDIA TO THRILLING ONE WICKET WIN, India 405 & 216-9, Australia 428 & 192., IND V/S AUS 1ST TEST, MOHALI, OCT.2010

CHASING A TARGET OF 216, INDIA WAS STRUGGLING AT 124-8. FROM THERE VVS LAXMAN striving with his back injury, batted with a runner and proved his talents once again by scoring the winning run for India.

This shows that anything is possible, but you have to believe yourself and have confidence in your ability.

So har khel kuch sikhaata hai…Khelo India Khelo !!